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56 year old male in Wisconsin looking to make friends, fishing buddies, occasional help with some daily activities around the home and yard; gay, bi, gay curious, all are welcome, I will answer all replies and any questions you may ask. Iím a T10-T11 paraplegic/LAK amputee, I use a Quickie wheelchair, drive my own vehicle (which means I can/do travel) and 4 wheeler. Iím very independent, live alone in the country with lots of privacy, own my own home, and have my own business. I love to fish, do some hunting, and like the outdoors; looking for a man to share some of these activities with plus sharing some of his activities as well. Iím very out going, friendly and have a big heart willing to make compromises with the right man; a LTR is the ultimate goal but only if itís right for both of us. I have a web cam, mic, and more pictures to share if interested. Please contact me at swlfishin@centurytel.net if interested or want to know more about me, I will always be honest and expect the same from you in return; as I said I will answer all replies. Thanks, I hope to hear from you soon! 6/08/06

October 6, 2000, my life changed forever. I am still amazing my doctors. I have severe nerve damage in both knees, FMS, CFS, CTS, and Lymes Disease. I am just looking for someone that can understand. I still travel the world, volunteer in my community, and try my best to stay active in my mental and physical well being. I have always had the ability to look inwards to see ones personality. You'll be hard to resist because: Your kindhearted nature; your great at motivating and energizing me to be your best; your intelligence will be obvious, and I'll be taken by the creative and inventive way your mind works; I'll find your ambition and competitive edge sexy. In return, I can help balance and expand your world as well: You'll enjoy talking to me. Our conversations will float naturally from topic to topic;You'll love my kind and sympathetic heart and the way I try to reach out to people who are in pain; Given your own intelligence, you'll be impressed by my intellect and inventiveness. Andru-Scot: Quality4Quality@verio.net 6/08/06

My name is Reynaldo and I'm 41 years of age, living in Lugoff, South Carolina I have a neuropsychological disability known as Asperger Syndrome, marked by certain neurological deficits, some of which include pain and mobility limitations including restrictions on long-term standing, walking, sustained handwriting, and strength. I ride a power chair. I do like riding around in the Power chair outdoors, photography, getting on the Internet, listening to music, watching TV and some movies, and having it out with my dog Ginger, a schipperke/Chihuahua mix (that it is, playing with her rough). I am looking for someone who is caring and compassionate, not necessarily a nurse but someone able to take care of some of my personal needs. I like chubby people and it's OK if you are disabled as well. I have my own group in Yahoo for chubby people. Please e-mail me reynaldo@usa.net. I can host. Please: I need someone now!! 13/06/06

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I am Bob, a 56-year-old, totally blind gay man living in NYC (pictured here with my guide dog Harley, who died three years ago). I have written for BENT and have a piece in the book, "Queer Crips." My primary purpose here is to make new friends among BENT readers, both disabled and nondisabled. Because I am blind, touch is very important to me, so I appreciate friends who can express affection physically. I love languages, traditional folk music, walks (albeit short ones), being read to, and good conversation. I'd like e-mail friends, but also would enjoy phone talks. A lot of sighted guys don't appreciate the depth and importance of phone conversations, but for me they are a good way to get to know someone (I have a great long distance plan!). I look forward to hearing from you: harlynn@panix.com. 3/15/06

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This is just me making contact and would be happy to correspond with anyone who wishes—oviously, those that 'click' will be most likely to become longterm friends. About me? Polio as a child; fairly OK apart from part withered leg; well educated; married and bi; great sense of humour; very sensual; very attentive; very inventive. Always remember - Life is NOT a rehersal! It's no good looking back and saying, 'If only .....' LIFE IS FOR NOW! I'm based in the United Kindom. Hope to hear from you. FriendlyShores@aol.com. Ray 3/13/06

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Hello, my name is Marcus and in my almost 37 years I've found it hard to meet other people precisely because of my physical challenges. I have a mild form of cerebral palsy and epilepsy. Other gay men are turned off to me because I don't fit the mold of a perfect body. You can e-mail me at: marcusab@rcn.com. 3/09/06

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Hi, Mike here, C5/6 tetra[quad] in UK. I like music— a lot! folk/pop/rock/dance/funk/punk/rap/hip-hop/bop—yoga, spiritualism, supernatural, chocolate. Looking to chat/e-mail/roller-disco with like-minded, like-situationed guys & gals. Feel free to message me if you want: mak.access@virgin.net . 3/07/06

 

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I am 42 years old from the Philippines and I am in search of real and true friends that will eventually lead into a strong and beautiful relationship. I was a total paraplegic at the age of 12 and was recovered when I was 19 years old. As a result, I am now lame and use a cane. I describe myself as loving, caring, love to cuddle and caress, and even give a good massage to the one I love. I love to read a lot of books, cook, and anything about housekeeping. I am looking for someone who is ready for a long-term or lifetime commitment. leodmejia98@hotmail.com. 2/07/06

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Hi, I'm Joe and my disability in finding a nice man for a gay relationship is that I was born with an intersexed chromosome pattern that helped take me down the path to believing I would be better off living as a female instead of male, so at age 19 that is the direction I headed. Twenty years later, in 2004, after years of soul-searching, at age 40 I decided to return to living as male, but now, because of something they call sexchange surgery, my penis is inside me instead of on the outside. I think that is a major disability in finding a man for a gay relationship! Besides of what I have been through I am secure in my masculinity. I could say a lot about me here, but better you visit my personal website where you will find tons more info. My website address is written across my picture so that search engines don't pick it up through this personal ad. Please email me from my website. 1/28/06

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Hej! Derek here. I live in Atlanta, GA and Europe. I'm 40, blond & blue-eyed, 5'8", 140lbs. I hope to make some new friends and maybe one of you will lead to something more. I am open to all, although I must admit a special liking for Europeans. I look for someone with an open mind & open heart. I am fond of travel, cinema (especially French & Scandinavian), good food, and am an avid reader. As for my disability, I was born with a rare disease called poland syndrome and as a result am without my right hand. I use a prosthetic hand for most things and other times nothing at all. Well, must be going but I'm looking forward to meeting all of you.All the best!! 1/10/06

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Walt is still lost out on the prairie. I was born in ND in 1952, but lived most my life "out there"--e.g. I've lived in Nairobi, L.A. Amsterdam, Seattle, Honolulu and back to ND. One excuse may be: spending most of the 1970s globetrotting with a gospel (sort of) jazz/rock (very) band. MS seems to have cured me of wanderlust and I ended up back here in the Great American Siberia. While health keeps me sedentary, politics and disability issues keep me active. And I write. My book, "We're the People, Too," a study of disability from 16 different angles, was released by Champion Press, Milwaukee in 2001. And that great American novel should be hitting publishers and agents this spring. If any oneís interested, Iím 5'9" and tip the scales at 168ish. I grew up in evangelical-fundamentalist environs, and now, thank God my spiritual journey has taken me to healthier places. My interests include politics, writing and music from Mozart to Elton to Ella; not interested in dope, tobacco, too much booze and "political correctness." If any of the above rings a bell, better E me! wdudley@ndsupernet.com. 1/09/06

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MAX , longtime disability activist, newly diagnosed with Diabetes, still looking to meet up with disabled men for friendship and fun. I'm 57 years old, 6', 300 + pounds, with white beard/mustache and enough tattooes and piercings to use the phrase "Biker looks" to describe me. Interests include writing, crafts, music (Broadway to Bach, but little rock), cooking, gardening, and lots more. I have a long-term lover, so I am not looking for commitments, just a way to explore creative (and sometimes kinky) sex with men who want the same. But don't let the bear looks, kinky bent, or open-relationship scare you. I am genuine about wanting to relate to men whose disabilities are more observable than mine and who have been left out of the loop when it comes to good, hot sex. 1/06/06

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My name is Doska, a 30years old black ,disabled, gay guy from Kenya. I am looking for gay friends, disabled or non-disabled to give me company in form of chatting and possibly intimancy in future. I am a graduate student in the Netherlands. please to be clear I should say I walk on a crutch to support my left leg which is completely weak. Otherwise, Iremain a strong guy. Please hold all those questions that will require me to defend my disability. I very much like to tell you such but if you decide to date me, take me as a person and not to question me to find out whether i suit you. I can't wait to hear from you. e-mail rolamana@yahoo.co.uk. You can ask for full picture. 12/30/05

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Hello, I am a fully-abled gay white male actor interested in meeting other gay men for friendship or sex or both. Interested in meeting differently-abled gay, bi, trans men. Email me at moonlake@gosonic.ca. Here is my pic. Please send same to me. Philip 11/13/05

 

 

 

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Hello everyone/anyone! I am Jon, a c-5/6 quad from boston massachusetts. I am 35 and very independent. I'm not sure what I'm doing here, but maybe somebody, preferably a slim and smooth body type can help me discover my potential as a soulmate or playmate as I am struggling with that part of my life.E-mail me at primpygimp@aol.com. 11/17/05

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My name's Nacho and I'm a 34-yo gay guy from Madrid, Spain. I'm quad. I go on an electrical whelchair and I can't use either my hands (I don't have my left hand), but I use my mouth, lips, tongue very well. My biggest hobbies are music (I listen to music anytime and I also love singing), movies, watching basketball games, theater plays. Everybody, except my family (they're really conservative and Catholic) know I'm gay. I'm been out since I was 26. I have a degree in Law and I also studied translation (English, French and Spanish). Now I work as a Spanish teacher as a second language. I also translate theater plays into Spanish, study singing, write. I'm looking for a straight-acting guy (that's really important for me), also, sweet, careful, fun, nice, and if he's handsome, much better! (lol). Send me a message if u're interested: gatniert@hotmail.com. 10/14/05

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Cute, funny, single, intelligent, intense, well-adjusted guy who uses a wheelchair. Looking for cool, laid back guys in all accessible locations. Road trips, vacations, dancing, partying, clubbing, etc. Younger guys welcome! Whiners need not apply. Please have your life together and have a purpose. Disabled or non-disabled, doesn't matter. I'm Ed and I live on Long Island in NY. I'm the Executive Director of an Independent Living Center and I work each day to help people with disabilities find the motivation to direct their own lives. I'm 40, using a chair for about 15 years. I'm out, loud and proud—about being gay, about being Christian and about being a person with a disability. I'm at home in most places, flexible and fun. I've lived in several different states (NY, CA, FL, NC, MO) and have had various levels of relationships. I'm definitely a 'people person'. I'm weird, quirky, a bit freaky and dance to the beat of a different drummer. I've also become quite savvy in reasonable accommodations in the bedroom. Another like me you will never find. Drop me a note at edinwestho@aol.com if you'd like to know anymore. See more of me at http://photos.yahoo.com/edinwestho. 9/08/05

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Looking for real love as well as physical hardcore action in or near Seattle. I am a 30-year-old GWM quadriplegic with full sensation throughout my body. I'm seeking an optimistic, high-libido disabled or nondisabled man 18-40. R/T fans a plus. 420-friendly a must. Rodney Lewis, therealdotcomboy@gmail.com. 8/14/05

 

 

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Happy and successful Able-bodied Baby Boomer is seeking the privelege of being a friend, confidant, lover and occasional crutch to a single-leg amputee guy to fill a long standing void in his life. Let's see if we can be "whole" with each other. Email me at mputlvr@hotmail.com referencing dadd. Thanks, John. 8/13/05

 

 

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My name is Tod and my email address is tsteward12000@yahoo.com. I'm physically disabled (deformity since birth but not in a wheelchair) and have been looking for a relationship for the last ten years with no success. I live in Seattle, joined many non-profit groups, active in the community etc. and still no boyfriend. My friends tell me I'm a great catch because I'm independent both physically and financially, look good for a 41 year old, but yearning for someone, just one time to come into my life and love me for who I am. Not once has this happened and I feel extremely lonely, even to the point, what's the point of living when no one intimately loves you. Just wondering if anyone from Seattle or elswhere that can give me some advice? I just started my own web site www.datetod.com since I'm in marketing and hopefully will be able to find someone. Thank you, Tod. 6/19/05

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My name is Barry, from Calgary in Alberta, Canada. I am a 41-year-old GWM living with a disability that requires me use a wheelchair to get around. I am fortunate enough to have a partner of 20 years (2005). We both love traveling, getting away as often as we can. My partner (Les) is also my care provider, I have only been disabled since 1999. We enjoy meeting other people, and happened across BENT, and thought we could possibly meet others such as yourself. Please include BENT in the subject line of your e-mail when you write to us: vaioguys@hotmail.com. 5/23/05

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Hi, I am Ron a T-4 para from Boston. Retired form the U.S.Navy, I like to travel to the Cape, Florida, and NYC. I am six three, 210, salt and pepper, muscular. Former wheelchair athlete, I still work out three days per week. Family and friends are important. Looking for a guy who may be interested in a LTR. bielic5017@aol.com. 4/25/05

 

 

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Hi, My name is Jeff and I am from New York City. I am 44 and am hearing impaired and also have failed back syndrome from a spinal fusion and get around with Lofstrand crutches. I am a down to earth , honest and sincere guy. Unfortunately due to my disability well you know how many in the gay community perceive us. I enjoy doing eggshell artistry and going to these type of shows when possible. I am looking to meet someone or make friends also would be nice. Look forward to hearing from you. Please email me at angelguy69460195@aol.com. 4/25/05

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Hi. My name is Bill and I am 43 years old. I was in a car accident in 1999 and am recovering from a brain injury. I live near Denver Colorado. I am looking for other gay men to become friends through email. I have some speech problems so it is easier to chat by email. I like to go to movies of all kinds, museums and the outdoors. Art has become very important to me. It started out as therapy and now I do a lot of watercolor painting and drawing with colored pencils. I also enjoy just hanging out at home to watch TV, read a book or play games. It has been hard to meet other gay men near here who can understand what it's like to be disabled, so if you would like to make a good friend, please write to me at konabill@hotmail.com. Thanks. 3/25/05

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I'm Billy, incomplete quadriplegic, deaf (ASL), woodworker and active outdoor, looking for relationship or friendship! I am 48, 5'6", #150, br/br, mountain w/hairy chest/legs, down-to earth, str8 acting, Architectural and very energy. I enjoy Mono-skiing, kayaking, woodworking, hiking, camping swimming, bowling, chain-sawing, photography, studying the weather, gardening, love to shovel snow and wheelchair racquetball. Wearin 2(x)ist and Carhartt. I attend Woodsmen's Field Day (looking for giant lumberjack with nice big pouch!), Craft Shows, USA/World Ski Racing fan, shopping and Gay Pride! Gay camp at Hillside, Rainbow Woods and Plein Bois Campground in Quebec. I love to watch "Survivor", "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition" and "Price is Right." I read "Men's Health", Woodworking" and "Men" magazine. I work for Independent Living Center as the Architectural Barrier Consultant. I have my own woodworking business, Adirondack Woodcraft and live alone with my two dogs (9 yo German Shepherd and 6 yo Golden Retriever) in Adirondack Mts., NY. Looking for disabled or nondisabled man for relationship and friendship. No fems, please. I really need to have SEX with Men. DisabledCuteMan@aol.com. 02/27/05

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