reminder: This service works optimally when participants
keep the lines of communication open. That means anyone
who places an ad here should be prepared to answer every
inquiry he receives. Your answer need be no more than a
"thanks, but I'm not interested." An answer displays
the courtesy with which you would like to be treated yourself,
and establishes that the sender's message has at least reached
no representations concerning the accuracy or legitimacy
of these listings. It is your responsibility to exercise
discretion and common sense when responding.
year old male in Wisconsin looking to make friends, fishing
buddies, occasional help with some daily activities around
the home and yard; gay, bi, gay curious, all are welcome,
I will answer all replies and any questions you may ask.
Iím a T10-T11 paraplegic/LAK amputee, I use a Quickie wheelchair,
drive my own vehicle (which means I can/do travel) and 4
wheeler. Iím very independent, live alone in the country
with lots of privacy, own my own home, and have my own business.
I love to fish, do some hunting, and like the outdoors;
looking for a man to share some of these activities with
plus sharing some of his activities as well. Iím very out
going, friendly and have a big heart willing to make compromises
with the right man; a LTR is the ultimate goal but only
if itís right for both of us. I have a web cam, mic, and
more pictures to share if interested. Please contact me
if interested or want to know more about me, I will always
be honest and expect the same from you in return; as I said
I will answer all replies. Thanks, I hope to hear from you
6, 2000, my life changed forever. I am still amazing my
doctors. I have severe nerve damage in both knees, FMS,
CFS, CTS, and Lymes Disease. I am just looking for someone
that can understand. I still travel the world, volunteer
in my community, and try my best to stay active in my mental
and physical well being. I have always had the ability to
look inwards to see ones personality. You'll be hard to
resist because: Your kindhearted nature; your great at motivating
and energizing me to be your best; your intelligence will
be obvious, and I'll be taken by the creative and inventive
way your mind works; I'll find your ambition and competitive
edge sexy. In return, I can help balance and expand your
world as well: You'll enjoy talking to me. Our conversations
will float naturally from topic to topic;You'll love my
kind and sympathetic heart and the way I try to reach out
to people who are in pain; Given your own intelligence,
you'll be impressed by my intellect and inventiveness. Andru-Scot:
name is Reynaldo and I'm 41 years of age, living in Lugoff,
South Carolina I have a neuropsychological disability known
as Asperger Syndrome, marked by certain neurological deficits,
some of which include pain and mobility limitations including
restrictions on long-term standing, walking, sustained handwriting,
and strength. I ride a power chair. I do like riding around
in the Power chair outdoors, photography, getting on the
Internet, listening to music, watching TV and some movies,
and having it out with my dog Ginger, a schipperke/Chihuahua
mix (that it is, playing with her rough). I am looking for
someone who is caring and compassionate, not necessarily
a nurse but someone able to take care of some of my personal
needs. I like chubby people and it's OK if you are disabled
as well. I have my own group in Yahoo for chubby people.
Please e-mail me firstname.lastname@example.org.
I can host. Please: I need someone now!! 13/06/06
am Bob, a 56-year-old, totally blind gay man living in NYC
(pictured here with my guide dog Harley, who died three
years ago). I have written for BENT and have a piece in
the book, "Queer Crips." My primary purpose here
is to make new friends among BENT readers, both disabled
and nondisabled. Because I am blind, touch is very important
to me, so I appreciate friends who can express affection
physically. I love languages, traditional folk music, walks
(albeit short ones), being read to, and good conversation.
I'd like e-mail friends, but also would enjoy phone talks.
A lot of sighted guys don't appreciate the depth and importance
of phone conversations, but for me they are a good way to
get to know someone (I have a great long distance plan!).
I look forward to hearing from you: email@example.com.
This is just me making contact and would be
happy to correspond with anyone who wishesoviously,
those that 'click' will be most likely to become longterm
friends. About me? Polio as a child; fairly OK apart from
part withered leg; well educated; married and bi; great
sense of humour; very sensual; very attentive; very inventive.
Always remember - Life is NOT a rehersal! It's no good looking
back and saying, 'If only .....' LIFE IS FOR NOW! I'm based
in the United Kindom. Hope to hear from you. FriendlyShores@aol.com.
Hello, my name is Marcus and in my almost
37 years I've found it hard to meet other people precisely
because of my physical challenges. I have a mild form of
cerebral palsy and epilepsy. Other gay men are turned off
to me because I don't fit the mold of a perfect body. You
can e-mail me at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Mike here, C5/6 tetra[quad] in UK. I like music a
spiritualism, supernatural, chocolate. Looking to chat/e-mail/roller-disco
with like-minded, like-situationed guys & gals. Feel free
to message me if you want: email@example.com
am 42 years old from the Philippines and I am in search
of real and true friends that will eventually lead into
a strong and beautiful relationship. I was a total paraplegic
at the age of 12 and was recovered when I was 19 years old.
As a result, I am now lame and use a cane. I describe myself
as loving, caring, love to cuddle and caress, and even give
a good massage to the one I love. I love to read a lot of
books, cook, and anything about housekeeping. I am looking
for someone who is ready for a long-term or lifetime commitment.
I'm Joe and my disability in finding a nice man for a gay
relationship is that I was born with an intersexed chromosome
pattern that helped take me down the path to believing I
would be better off living as a female instead of male,
so at age 19 that is the direction I headed. Twenty years
later, in 2004, after years of soul-searching, at age 40
I decided to return to living as male, but now, because
of something they call sexchange surgery, my penis is inside
me instead of on the outside. I think that is a major disability
in finding a man for a gay relationship! Besides of what
I have been through I am secure in my masculinity. I could
say a lot about me here, but better you visit my personal
website where you will find tons more info. My website address
is written across my picture so that search engines don't
pick it up through this personal ad. Please email me from
my website. 1/28/06
Hej! Derek here.
I live in Atlanta, GA and Europe. I'm 40, blond & blue-eyed,
5'8", 140lbs. I hope to make some new friends and maybe
one of you will lead to something more. I am open to all,
although I must admit a special liking for Europeans. I
look for someone with an open mind & open heart. I am fond
of travel, cinema (especially French & Scandinavian), good
food, and am an avid reader. As for my disability, I was
born with a rare disease called poland syndrome and as a
result am without my right hand. I use a prosthetic hand
for most things and other times nothing at all. Well, must
be going but I'm looking forward to meeting all of you.All
the best!! 1/10/06
is still lost out on the prairie. I was born in ND in 1952,
but lived most my life "out there"--e.g. I've lived in Nairobi,
L.A. Amsterdam, Seattle, Honolulu and back to ND. One excuse
may be: spending most of the 1970s globetrotting with a
gospel (sort of) jazz/rock (very) band. MS seems to have
cured me of wanderlust and I ended up back here in the Great
American Siberia. While health keeps me sedentary, politics
and disability issues keep me active. And I write. My book,
"We're the People, Too," a study of disability from 16 different
angles, was released by Champion Press, Milwaukee in 2001.
And that great American novel should be hitting publishers
and agents this spring. If any oneís interested, Iím 5'9"
and tip the scales at 168ish. I grew up in evangelical-fundamentalist
environs, and now, thank God my spiritual journey has taken
me to healthier places. My interests include politics, writing
and music from Mozart to Elton to Ella; not interested in
dope, tobacco, too much booze and "political correctness."
If any of the above rings a bell, better E me! firstname.lastname@example.org.
, longtime disability activist, newly diagnosed with
Diabetes, still looking to meet up with disabled men for
friendship and fun. I'm 57 years old, 6', 300 + pounds,
with white beard/mustache and enough tattooes and piercings
to use the phrase "Biker looks" to describe me. Interests
include writing, crafts, music (Broadway to Bach, but little
rock), cooking, gardening, and lots more. I have a long-term
lover, so I am not looking for commitments, just a way to
explore creative (and sometimes kinky) sex with men who
want the same. But don't let the bear looks, kinky bent,
or open-relationship scare you. I am genuine about wanting
to relate to men whose disabilities are more observable
than mine and who have been left out of the loop when it
comes to good, hot sex. 1/06/06
My name is Doska, a 30years old black ,disabled,
gay guy from Kenya. I am looking for gay friends, disabled
or non-disabled to give me company in form of chatting and
possibly intimancy in future. I am a graduate student in
the Netherlands. please to be clear I should say I walk
on a crutch to support my left leg which is completely weak.
Otherwise, Iremain a strong guy. Please hold all those questions
that will require me to defend my disability. I very much
like to tell you such but if you decide to date me, take
me as a person and not to question me to find out whether
i suit you. I can't wait to hear from you. e-mail email@example.com.
You can ask for full picture. 12/30/05
I am a fully-abled gay white male actor interested in meeting
other gay men for friendship or sex or both. Interested
in meeting differently-abled gay, bi, trans men. Email me
Here is my pic. Please send same to me. Philip 11/13/05
Hello everyone/anyone! I am Jon, a c-5/6 quad
from boston massachusetts. I am 35 and very independent.
I'm not sure what I'm doing here, but maybe somebody, preferably
a slim and smooth body type can help me discover my potential
as a soulmate or playmate as I am struggling with that part
of my life.E-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
name's Nacho and I'm a 34-yo gay guy from Madrid, Spain.
I'm quad. I go on an electrical whelchair and I can't use
either my hands (I don't have my left hand), but I use my
mouth, lips, tongue very well. My biggest hobbies are music
(I listen to music anytime and I also love singing), movies,
watching basketball games, theater plays. Everybody, except
my family (they're really conservative and Catholic) know
I'm gay. I'm been out since I was 26. I have a degree in
Law and I also studied translation (English, French and
Spanish). Now I work as a Spanish teacher as a second language.
I also translate theater plays into Spanish, study singing,
write. I'm looking for a straight-acting guy (that's really
important for me), also, sweet, careful, fun, nice, and
if he's handsome, much better! (lol). Send me a message
if u're interested: email@example.com.
funny, single, intelligent, intense, well-adjusted guy who
uses a wheelchair. Looking for cool, laid back guys in all
accessible locations. Road trips, vacations, dancing, partying,
clubbing, etc. Younger guys welcome! Whiners need not apply.
Please have your life together and have a purpose. Disabled
or non-disabled, doesn't matter. I'm Ed and I live on Long
Island in NY. I'm the Executive Director of an Independent
Living Center and I work each day to help people with disabilities
find the motivation to direct their own lives. I'm 40, using
a chair for about 15 years. I'm out, loud and proudabout
being gay, about being Christian and about being a person
with a disability. I'm at home in most places, flexible
and fun. I've lived in several different states (NY, CA,
FL, NC, MO) and have had various levels of relationships.
I'm definitely a 'people person'. I'm weird, quirky, a bit
freaky and dance to the beat of a different drummer. I've
also become quite savvy in reasonable accommodations in
the bedroom. Another like me you will never find. Drop me
a note at firstname.lastname@example.org
if you'd like to know anymore. See more of me at http://photos.yahoo.com/edinwestho.
for real love as well as physical hardcore action in or
near Seattle. I am a 30-year-old GWM quadriplegic with full
sensation throughout my body. I'm seeking an optimistic,
high-libido disabled or nondisabled man 18-40. R/T fans
a plus. 420-friendly a must. Rodney Lewis, email@example.com.
and successful Able-bodied Baby Boomer is seeking the privelege
of being a friend, confidant, lover and occasional crutch
to a single-leg amputee guy to fill a long standing void
in his life. Let's see if we can be "whole" with each other.
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
referencing dadd. Thanks, John. 8/13/05
name is Tod and my email address is email@example.com.
I'm physically disabled (deformity since birth but not in
a wheelchair) and have been looking for a relationship for
the last ten years with no success. I live in Seattle, joined
many non-profit groups, active in the community etc. and
still no boyfriend. My friends tell me I'm a great catch
because I'm independent both physically and financially,
look good for a 41 year old, but yearning for someone, just
one time to come into my life and love me for who I am.
Not once has this happened and I feel extremely lonely,
even to the point, what's the point of living when no one
intimately loves you. Just wondering if anyone from Seattle
or elswhere that can give me some advice? I just started
my own web site www.datetod.com
since I'm in marketing and hopefully will be able to find
someone. Thank you, Tod. 6/19/05
name is Barry, from Calgary in Alberta, Canada. I am a 41-year-old
GWM living with a disability that requires me use a wheelchair
to get around. I am fortunate enough to have a partner of
20 years (2005). We both love traveling, getting away as
often as we can. My partner (Les) is also my care provider,
I have only been disabled since 1999. We enjoy meeting other
people, and happened across BENT, and thought we could possibly
meet others such as yourself. Please include BENT in the
subject line of your e-mail when you write to us: firstname.lastname@example.org.
I am Ron a T-4 para from Boston. Retired form the U.S.Navy,
I like to travel to the Cape, Florida, and NYC. I am six
three, 210, salt and pepper, muscular. Former wheelchair
athlete, I still work out three days per week. Family and
friends are important. Looking for a guy who may be interested
in a LTR. email@example.com.
My name is Jeff and I am from New York City. I am 44 and
am hearing impaired and also have failed back syndrome from
a spinal fusion and get around with Lofstrand crutches.
I am a down to earth , honest and sincere guy. Unfortunately
due to my disability well you know how many in the gay community
perceive us. I enjoy doing eggshell artistry and going to
these type of shows when possible. I am looking to meet
someone or make friends also would be nice. Look forward
to hearing from you. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
My name is Bill and I am 43 years old. I was in a car accident
in 1999 and am recovering from a brain injury. I live near
Denver Colorado. I am looking for other gay men to become
friends through email. I have some speech problems so it
is easier to chat by email. I like to go to movies of all
kinds, museums and the outdoors. Art has become very important
to me. It started out as therapy and now I do a lot of watercolor
painting and drawing with colored pencils. I also enjoy
just hanging out at home to watch TV, read a book or play
games. It has been hard to meet other gay men near here
who can understand what it's like to be disabled, so if
you would like to make a good friend, please write to me
Billy, incomplete quadriplegic, deaf (ASL), woodworker and
active outdoor, looking for relationship or friendship!
I am 48, 5'6", #150, br/br, mountain w/hairy chest/legs,
down-to earth, str8 acting, Architectural and very energy.
I enjoy Mono-skiing, kayaking, woodworking, hiking, camping
swimming, bowling, chain-sawing, photography, studying the
weather, gardening, love to shovel snow and wheelchair racquetball.
Wearin 2(x)ist and Carhartt. I attend Woodsmen's Field Day
(looking for giant lumberjack with nice big pouch!), Craft
Shows, USA/World Ski Racing fan, shopping and Gay Pride!
Gay camp at Hillside, Rainbow Woods and Plein Bois Campground
in Quebec. I love to watch "Survivor", "Extreme Makeover:
Home Edition" and "Price is Right." I read "Men's Health",
Woodworking" and "Men" magazine. I work for Independent
Living Center as the Architectural Barrier Consultant. I
have my own woodworking business, Adirondack Woodcraft and
live alone with my two dogs (9 yo German Shepherd and 6
yo Golden Retriever) in Adirondack Mts., NY. Looking for
disabled or nondisabled man for relationship and friendship.
No fems, please. I really need to have SEX with Men. DisabledCuteMan@aol.com.