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©Nina Glaser


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MAY 2006

I especially liked "Unzipping the Monster Dick" in BENT's March issue. My son struggles with the whole penis issue on a regular basis (he's straight). He is convinced that it's part of his whole image as a man. I wish he could see the tyranny of that whole idea! I'm thinking that that silly attitude holds straight guys hostage as much as gays. And women, too, for that matter! And I loved the article on not "telling". Lord I am so tired of folks who think that their sexuality is any of my business. I don't care who does who (as long as I am not subjected to a lot of breeder fantasies) and every one is clearly and fully consenting. We have to have our pioneers who are willing to get in folks' faces and I applaud them. But for those of us who prefer not to even bring our sexuality up, .well, there needs to be a place for us also. Somewhere in the middle. Thanks for all the BENT contributors' hard work. As always, it's a pleasure.

Some past letters

I really appreciated the article on depression. So much, in fact, that I so very much want to share it by posting onto a discussion forum board of a disability website I am part of. The Depression Support Group could really benefit from it as I have.
San Francisco

I am a disability advocate for an Independent Living Center In North Central Idaho. I am not a gay man so that puts me at a disadvantage, but I have lived with major depression off and on since my childhood so I do understand disability. I'm 51 now. and yeah, I'm bent. Thanks heavans for that. Introductions aside, BENT gives me a chance to learn about a segment of our population that I might not otherwise come into contact with. Sure I have gay friends, but we don't have enough population around here to readily identify "gay/disabled." Someday though, someone's going to show up at my office with a story they need to tell and I'd like to think that reading BENT has given me at least an inkling of how to listen, be aware, be helpful is some way. It probably takes a lot of work to put a webzine together and if you decide you can't do it anymore, most of us are going to understand. But take with you the fact that you've made an impact on one disability advocate in the semi-outback of Idaho. Yeah, it matters

Sheer chance got me to Mike Shumate's story, My First Orgy. As a T12 para, I was very interested. I've had little sexual and, growing older, erections don't happen— though personal contact & pills might help. I figure I'm over the hill (with little action on the way up), but Shumate's refences to older men are an encouragement. Thanks for the graphic writing.

It's Sunday morning. I've had my 1st cup of coffee and decided to catch up with a week's worth of neglected e-mail. A friend e-mailed me Larry Connolly's The Worst Husband in San Francisco . Although I often raise my literary guard when I come across a piece with a confessional tone, this work found the chink in my armor. Connolly's wit combined with his brutally honest depiction of two strong-willed people fumbling (in the very best and most honorable sense of the word) their way through married life would be worth reading no matter what the particulars of that married life may be. The accompanying art serves as a not so subtle reminder that we ARE the superheroes in the graphic novels of our lives. I want to read more!

Max Verga helped out more than one person with Escaping Homegrown Paternalism. If I get any lonelier cooped up in this small town in my mother's house, I may just go mad. But then again there is the huge financial burden that has only gotten so much worse in these past years. Someday, though.
Thanks Max,
Stonington, CT

Larry Connolly (The Worst Husband in San Francisco) has the courage to speak the unspeakable and to do it with such wit. The anger is refreshing—but even more impressive is this: the disabled would rarely choose their condition, but caregivers do choose theirs. "Wither thou goest, I will go. Wither thou lodgest, I will lodge.Thy people shall be my people." Connolly has told a love story older than Genesis but a lot funnier.
Berkeley, CA

I volunteer at the Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Youth Project in Halifax, Nova Scotia. We provide support services and social services for LGBT youth 25 and under. We also offer different resource/information packages for gay men, women, transgendered people, and parents of gay children. Recently I've gotten a call to see if we had anything on being gay and disabled and I realized we had very, very little. So, knowing we need this fixed, I went on a web search and found books on amazon.com and a few small articles on the internet. And then I was directed to your website and I was so, so glad I was. BENT is fantastic, I couldn't have asked for a better resource to pass on to others. I wanted to thank you for your wonderful webzine; it will definitely be advertised in our packages as a place to access for gay and disabled persons, not only youth but adults as well. Best regards and many thanks.
-Sheena Jamieson

I cannot tell you how much Altered States made me think. I am just starting to date a man who became an amputee four years ago. John Killacky's article made me think about where my friend has been and where we have to go in the future! Thanks so very much!

Hello, First let me state that I am neither gay neither disabled. I am what one calls an "amputee devotee", and also the editor of the OverGround website, which you might have heard of. I have read the recent article about admirers in Bent which I found very interesting and enlightening in many aspects.
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I am 18 years old and my right arm is half paralyzed by something called brachial plexic palsy, caused at birth. I don't see it as a disability anymore, rather an obstacle that God placed before me to overcome. I am at Ball State University in Muncie Indiana where I am following my dream of becoming a Special Education Teacher. I am the VP of a campus GLBT group called Spectrum, where I'm planning a meeting on the "crippled" GLBT community and how we need to embrace them like everyone else. My group is not familiar with my arm, something I am disclosing at this meeting, which may hit them closer to home. I will use stories from BENT to open up the discussion. I just wanted to say that your webzine is great and helped me with things I have ignored for years.
Zac Davis







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